I’ll phrase it as ‘less anxiety’ because people who live with anxiety have some degree of it at different points of the day. I found myself eating lunch (brunch) alone this late morning. I’ve always found myself to be the lone wolf type but I’ve always had people around me, regardless of closeness. I’m currently in a weird spot in my life where I don’t have anyone around me (aside from my husband and cat who keep me grounded). It’s made ever so blatant now that we have moved to a new city where I don’t know anyone but those I work with. It’s a bit surreal to see all the college students moving around mostly in pairs and groups.. and although there’s so many people in this city, I still don’t actually know anyone as a friend. My husband is constantly studying with his head in the books for our future. That leaves me with a lot of time to myself with basically nothing to do but live in my head.
Crane Ramen (Gainesville, FL)
Going outside to get fresh air or a bite to eat by yourself can seem like a daunting task. It’s so necessary though when you find yourself in a position like mine. Constantly staying inside with the workings of your mind can cause you to become sad and in turn drains your energy. So I wanted to share a few things that help my psyche when I’m out by myself.
First thing is to try to be comfortable in whatever you are wearing out. This may seem like a mundane thing but when you’ve driven a few miles away and realize your sweater is really scratchy or your jeans are cutting off your circulation that’s all your going to focus on and may eventually lead you to drive back home. Once you’re back home chances are you’re going to stay there. So put something comfy on and walk around the house before taking off.
Roasted Pork Belly Steamed Buns
Know exactly where you’re going and have an idea of what you want to eat. It also helps to look online for pictures of the interior. This may seem like a big to-do but nowadays it’s a quick google search before heading out. Nothing is more nerve-wracking than the fear of the unknown. We all have our favorite places to go and eat, made the more comforting by the copious amounts of times we’ve been there. Nothing says comfort like knowing the in and outs of your favorite food joint. But I’m always trying new places and cuisines because I love food and culture, so doing my research always helps in the long run so that I don’t end up overwhelmed when I get there.
Pack some earphones with you before heading out. When we dine with friends and family we have the comfort of people we know and love and also the chatter we partake in. When we’re dining alone it helps to have something to focus on. I, personally, listen to podcasts while I’m eating. It soothes me and takes me away from either the silence of the coffee shop or the bustle of the diner. Podcasts, music and even catching up on a favorite show while eating helps to soothe the atmosphere.
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If you have any tips please share them too!